Expecting kids to help with chores...and start young!
June 13th, 2012
I recently read that  'The best prodictor of young adults' success in their mid-20s was that they participated in household tasks when they were three or four'. Yess!! A good reminder to those of us who tend towards indulgent parenting and start to waver on following through after a request for help - It is in THEIR best interests to help out in the long run! Confirmed by research. No need to argue or persuade. Clearing the table or taking out the rubbish is a good thing and don't give in to persuasion to the contrary.

I supect however that the word 'Chores' doesn't help. Perhaps 'Chores' needs rebranding to something like 'Real Life Skills', 'Household Work Experience',  'House Jobs' (sounds too medical), 'Jobs around the house' (could have been left by the puppy)...or simply 'Helping Out'... With a bit of rebranding and more determination on our part, their lives (and ours) may be transformed!  Any alternative suggestions for 'Chores' gratefully received ...  
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June 16th, 2012 3:57 pm
Well done Tina for not being swayed by your daughter's protests...It's never too late to start getting them involved in helping out and despite complaints they do develop a satifying sense of competance. Maybe starting with small achievable jobs would help ease your daughter into the process? Good luck and once it is routine she will just get on with it. A lovely opportunity to give your youngest lots of praise for getting on with it and tell him how helpful he is too.
June 15th, 2012 12:32 pm
I am so pleased to come across this as last week I decided that my two (6 &9yrs) should be doing their own rooms. I asked them to polish, hoover and also to strip their beds. You would have thought by their response that I'd asked them to do without sweets till Christmas. My 9 year old's response "No way! I'll do it tomorrow..." (from experience that isn't going to happen!)"I'm not doing it on my own..I can't do it! You'll have to help me!". My youngest seemed to enjoy the hoovering and just got on with it (overkill on the polish perhaps) I could see my oldest just didn't expect to be doing chores at all. So I agree, time to rebrand chores before they are old enough to understand the negative associations! Perhaps time for 'Helping Out' will do it.
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